Are you sick and tired of setting New Years resolutions year after year with the best intentions of achieving some great things in your life only to find out that a few weeks into the year they are simply wild dreams that you are no closer to achieving. In fact you realise that you are not going to achieve them, so you simply give up on trying any longer. Year after year the excitement slowly fades to disappointment and discouragement.
So you might ask, "what do I need to change to finally achieve my New Years resolutions?"
Let's start with the real truth and take a good hard look at ourselves personally. To achieve any goals you have to be brutally honest and ask yourself the tough questions. So here they are;
Am I capable of achieving them? You must have the self awareness to identify whether you are actually capable of achieving them. If not, you are setting yourself up for failure.
Am I worth it? You must have the self esteem to say that I am worth achieving this goal.
Is it possible? You must have the self confidence to believe that your goal is possible, and
Do I deserve them? You must have the self belief to believe that you do deserve to achieve your New Years resolutions.
If you don't work on these issues first you are most likely setting yourself up for failure once again this year.
So now we have the tough questions out of the way, let's work on the next set of questions you need to ask yourself in order to achieve your New Years resolutions. Here they are;
Do you really want it? or put another way, do you want it bad enough? This is very important when you are in the process of setting your New Years resolution. Is it just a wish, a pipe dream or is it something that you seriously want? In other words, what are the consequences if you don't achieve them? If you cannot live with the consequences, you seriously need to achieve them. The next question you need to ask yourself, which goes hand in hand with this one is;
What sacrifices are you prepared to make to achieve it? This one can be the sticking point for many of us. If you are not prepared to make the necessary sacrifices, save yourself the heartache and don't even bother making the resolution. Seriously, if you do not have the discipline and you know it, then there is little doubt as to the reason you never achieve your New Years resolutions. If you have had difficulty in the past achieving your New Years resolutions, then you need to ask yourself;
Are you ready for change? Albert Einstein is reported to have said "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results." So if you have not achieved your New Years resolutions in the past, are you doing anything different this year to ensure you give yourself a chance at attaining them? Seriously you need to change if you want results this year. The question you need to ask yourself is "are you ready for change?" So you answered yes. That's great, you are ready for change. The next question is;
Do you have a support network around you? So you really want your New Years resolutions, you are prepared to make the sacrifices to ensure you get them, and you are prepared to change to succeed. Finally you need to ensure you have the appropriate support network around you. This is often the final hurdle to negotiate to ensure we succeed. We have all the best intentions but we don't have the support to keep us motivated and disciplined through the tough times. We don't have anyone to hold us accountable to our plans to achieve our resolutions. Close friends and family may provide this support, but are they really that concerned about your goals and whether you achieve them? are they appropriately qualified to assist you? A life coach or mentor are both excellent sources of knowledge, support, accountability, motivation, empowerment, encouragement and an unbiased sounding board for you to finally achieve your New Years resolutions.
The above questions and discussion are the starting point for successfully achieving your New Years resolutions. Once you have these in place you are well on the road to success. At Global Innovative Coaching we are able to work with you to professionally plan and set detailed goals, develop action plans and time management strategies, and ultimately empower you to ensure 2012 is your best year ever!